Anger and dealing with it…

There was a time when I was very angry.  I have written about it here and I have worked the 12 Steps to recover from not only my drinking but from those character defects.  I also work with others so I know their anger as well.  I have a good friend who is angry.  She has a couple of sober years, but she is in her early sixties and has a whole lifetime of living with her character defects and all the damage.  She has a sponsor and is at the stage where she is writing her 4th Step.  It is to be expected that her anger will come up to the surface,  Tonight she told me that there are more things about me that she likes compared to the things she dislikes.  Frankly, I am beginning to dislike her.  It is too bad, because I am sure there are wonderful things about her.  What I really dislike is the way she instantly trots out her experience as a grown woman to avoid looking at her past.  I am probably misreading the signs, but this is how I feel.

I think she should start hanging around with more women and not me.  There are many other things I could say, but that would be judgmental.  I am sure that I have gone through the same growing pains as she has.


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Johnnyboy is a queer recovering alcoholic. For the moment he is also the primary caregiver for his mother, who suffers from age-related cognitive impairment. She is happy as a lark and is surrounded by a crew of sober women which gives him the freedom he needs to get out of town. When he is not at home in Somewheresville, he is searching out the proper path to travel for happiness and joy. He is a photographer who believes in the digital age, but feels that film is still where its at. He has a darkroom and works in it. He is single and is in remarkably great physical condition for all the damage he has submitted his body to. His cardiologist is very happy. Johnnyboy is over the age of 35.

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