I’m not a cop, only a sober drunk…

Thank you all for your sage advice in the previous sponsoring dilemma. I made some calls last night and spoke to my sponsor this morning and the upshot is this: It is not my job to enforce the rules of the house where he lives, nor to make decisions that should be made by his doctor and him. My only job is to make sure that he has access to AA meetings and is able to meet other AA members. If there are medical reasons linked to his psyche meds for his not drinking coffee, not smoking, etc…then those issues need to be addressed by his attending physician, not me. I’m not even going to get involved with his host family on any level anymore, beyond picking him up. My sponsor reminded me to even let this go until something comes up wherein it needs to be addressed.

What a relief. Once again I am reminded that I cannot save the world, and even in saving myself I need lots of help.

I’m going to read some schoolwork this morning, hit the showers around noon and then go to the movies. “Capote” has come back around to the local cinema, and, as I missed it the first time, I’ll grab a seat this time and enjoy a sober day with some popcorn. The review will follow…

Johnnyboy

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Johnnyboy is a queer recovering alcoholic. For the moment he is also the primary caregiver for his mother, who suffers from age-related cognitive impairment. She is happy as a lark and is surrounded by a crew of sober women which gives him the freedom he needs to get out of town. When he is not at home in Somewheresville, he is searching out the proper path to travel for happiness and joy. He is a photographer who believes in the digital age, but feels that film is still where its at. He has a darkroom and works in it. He is single and is in remarkably great physical condition for all the damage he has submitted his body to. His cardiologist is very happy. Johnnyboy is over the age of 35.